Online Counseling for Men
You feel like a failure.
Your success at work does not translate into "success" in relationships. You want to find closeness and intimacy with a woman, but somehow it turns into a disaster. You try to show your love and make your partner happy, and somehow lose yourself in the process. You don't know how to be emotionally close to someone and stay yourself.
You walk on eggshells.
You don't know what to do with your partner's "negative" feelings. If she is sad or angry, you feel like it's your fault and try to either stay away from her or fix the problem to make her be happy. It often makes her even more upset and angry. Your attempts in support end up in more conflict. You feel inadequate.
You are highly intelligent, but by whatever reason your intellect does not help with relational problems. You are successful in your career, but unsatisfied with your personal life. Intimate relationships seem to exist outside of logical reasoning that you are so skilled in.
You are disconnected from your feelings.
You don't know what you feel or what others feel. Feelings and emotions do not make any sense. When you act irrationally yourself, you cannot explain your reasoning afterwards. You don't know what to do or say in situations requiring emotional response.
You are confused about your needs.
Things that you thought would make you happy, don't bring you joy. You are not sure what you want in a relationship. Your logical and your emotional side do not communicate with each other very well. As a result, you may think you are in a "perfect" relationship and feel unhappy without any obvious reason.
Fear of judgement limits you.
You are afraid of being judged and rejected, so you tend to ask for what you need in a form of a joke pretending that it does not have much importance. It makes other people believe that those needs are really not that significant, and you are often left unsatisfied. You keep your cool and pretend you don't care.
Do you want to keep living that way?
...knowing exactly how to respond to an emotional situation that left you baffled in the past.
You can understand what your feelings and emotions are and how to appropriately express them to your partner and other people around you.
...understanding your needs
You don't diminish or present them as a joke anymore. You are strong and confident that having feelings does not make you weak or bad in any way. On the contrary, your ability to understand and express feelings makes you so much more attractive to your partner and other women in your life.
...you understand your partner
You can listen to your partner and understand her needs without feeling inadequate or being threatened by her sadness or anger.
...you don't care if other people consider you man enough!
It does not matter to you what other people call strength and weakness. You make your own rules there!
You feel confident and secure in your relationships!
Why Work with Me:
I have helped a lot of men find themselves in relationships with women and understand both women and themselves better.
A big part of my life I have been an interpreter. I interpreted from one language to another to help people understand each other. In my work as a counselor, I keep interpreting and translating from the language of feelings and emotions to the language of logical reasoning. So I can be as logical as you need me to be while staying connected with the feelings.
As I am able to connect to your feelings and feel them with you, I can help you connect the words in your head with the sensations in your body. Sometimes it is easy to understand a concept without really understanding how the experience feels.
I believe that learning to understand and speak the language of feelings is one of the biggest challenges for men in their relationships with women. I can help you learn and start speaking this language fluently.
Tatiana Morris, Counselor
Questions You May Have:
I am not a man. Obviously! So you may have doubts that I can relate to your experiences. Let's define the terms here first. If by relating you mean experiencing the exact same thing in the same situation, I can't. Guess, what? Nobody can! Your experiences are yours only because they are based on a ton of complex individual psychological parameters that no two people share precisely. If by relating you mean understanding what you felt and how you felt in a situation, I can assure you that I can do it despite our differences. I am a human being and nothing human is foreign to me!
You may wonder if I use evidence-based approaches, if I am scientifically minded. To some degree, yes. I know what the modern science thinks about human relationships, brain development and psychophysiology. Back to languages: I speak both scientific and alternative spiritual languages. In my opinion, they just approach the same things from different sides. However, we don't have to agree on that!
If you are not sure if online counseling works effectively, I can assure you that it does. There is a lot of research out there proving it. It is a different setting, but it is still effective and in many situations more convenient. If you want to know more about online counseling, you can do it here.
Despite an outdated belief some people share, going to therapy is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of strength and maturity.
I look forward to get to know you and to help you create the relationship you want!
How I help:
I offer online counseling for men experiencing relationship difficulties in Minnesota, Oregon and internationally.
Our online therapy sessions will be held on a secure online video platform.
My schedule allows us to meet at convenient times including in the evenings and on weekends.
I work with people in different time zones. If needed, we can speak English, Russian, Spanish or French in our online therapy sessions.
Let's meet online for your complimentary video consultation! You can ask me all the questions you have!
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I look forward to help you feel confident in your relationships!